A pet peeve is a minor annoyance that one identifies as being particularly infuriating. It\u2019s your \u201cpet,\u201d because you find it more maddening than most of the people around you. In fact, most of the people around you are not be bothered by it in the least. On the contrary, they embrace it as a positive thing\u2014as an obvious good. Which drives you mad. <\/p>\n
The term \u201cpet peeve\u201d first appeared in English around 1919. It is derived from the fourteenth-century word \u201cpeevish,\u201d which means \u201cornery or ill-tempered.\u201d<\/p>\n
We all have pet peeves. I have several. But I\u2019m going to regale you with just one of mine today.<\/p>\n
Recently I was in an online discussion with someone regarding Israel\u2019s recent conflict with the terrorist organization Hamas. She was wanting to understand the background to the conflict and how the situation had gotten to where it was today. I had recently read a good summary of the history of the conflict and so shared the link. She responded with, \u201cOh, I won\u2019t read that. I don\u2019t trust anything he writes.\u201d<\/p>\n
I\u2019m ashamed to admit that my first thought was \u201cOh, so you\u2019re an irrational idiot.\u201d But instead, I simply searched for the same historical summary written by someone that I knew would better match her politics. It wasn\u2019t the time to give her an introductory course in logical reasoning and research methodologies.<\/p>\n
My online acquaintance was not behaving or thinking in a way that is out of the ordinary. Most people approach life the same way she does, and without a second thought. <\/p>\n
But is it rational for people to refuse to look at, listen to, or read what comes from a person on account of their politics? Or their religion? Or because of the organization they belong to? Or because they appeared on a program they don\u2019t like? Or on a television network they disapprove of? Or because of where they live? Or on account of their ethnicity? Or their nationality? Is it okay to prejudge what someone has to say without ever hearing what they say, and rejecting what they say simply because of who they are?<\/p>\n
Sure, it\u2019s normal. Sure it\u2019s natural. Sure it\u2019s common to think like that. But it\u2019s fundamentally illogical and irrational. <\/p>\n
\tBecause they\u2019re deciding\u2014before ever hearing an argument or statement\u2014that someone is wrong because of who they are, rather than because of what they said. <\/p>\n
When we refuse to listen to what people say because we don\u2019t like them for whatever reason, we are saying that their words are untrue just because they happened to come out of their mouth. <\/p>\n
Rejecting someone\u2019s words because of who they are falls under a class of logical fallacies that are termed fallacies of relevance. That is, they are arguments that have nothing to do with the issue at hand. They are a distraction that keeps people from looking at the facts. And they are incredibly common in politics, advertising and just about everywhere. Their prevalence makes them no less annoying and idiotic. To reject what someone says simply because of who they are is to fall victim to what is called an \u201cargumentum ad hominem.\u201d That\u2019s Latin for \u201can attack on the person.\u201d <\/p>\n
There are two basic types of these \u201cad hominem\u201d arguments: abusive and circumstantial. <\/p>\n
An abusive ad hominem argument is one where the person is attacked over what he said simply because of who he is. An example would be to argue against Adolph Hitler\u2019s comment that \u201ctoday, the sun is out and there is not a cloud in the sky\u201d simply because he is Adolph Hitler. <\/p>\n
After all, who he is\u2014a psychopathic Nazi\u2014has no bearing on whether the sun is shining or whether there is a cloud in the sky. If you disagree with him, you have to do so because it is, in fact raining. That he is Adolph Hitler has no bearing on the truth or falsity of his weather report.<\/p>\n
The other sort of ad hominem argument is the circumstantial ad hominem. For instance when a Congressman stands up in front of a crowd and comments, \u201cTwo plus two is four.\u201d If you stand up and yell, \u201cYou can\u2019t listen to anything that man says, he\u2019s anti-union.\u201d Then your assertion is invalid. Two plus two are still four, no matter if he\u2019s pro or anti-union, no matter if he is a fascist or a communist. <\/p>\n
If your argument against what someone writes or says, or if your refusal to listen, comes down to simply an attack on the individual, without marshalling any facts or data, then you are guilty of faulty thinking and the only thing you have demonstrated is that you need to take a good course in logic. <\/p>\n
Our best bet is to be skeptical of everyone\u2014not just those we don\u2019t like for whatever reason. In fact, we should be most skeptical of those we like and those we agree with. Why? Because our all too human tendency is to pay more attention to arguments which support our point of view while discounting those that don\u2019t. Logic and the scientific method are useful counters to our tendency to only notice what confirms our biases and pre-existing beliefs. <\/p>\n
The essence of the scientific method is to attempt to disprove a theory. That’s why falsifiability is so critical. The longer we go without being able to disprove something, the more confidence we can have in a theory. <\/p>\n
But in any case, we should always try to be as skeptical of what those we agree with say as we are with those we disagree with. On a practical level, this means we should spend some time reading and listening to those we disagree with, not just those who say what we like. Don\u2019t just surround yourself with yes-men.<\/p>\n
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